Thursday, May 24

Ladies, I'd like to ask you to all pray for my little girl. Nikia is still having a real hard time with her Great-Grandpa's death. Remember when my Grandpa died and how she was there and saw everything? Almost everyday with tears in her eyes, Nikia tells me how she misses him so much. She's asked me if it's still okay to cry about missing him. Yesterday, she described to me the scene of the accident again. The other day I was taking a shower and when I got done I found a note that she had slid under my door. It was a picture of a little girl with tears rolling down her cheeks and it said "I really miss Grandpa". Today, she told me that she wished she was in heaven so she could see Grandpa. I know being at the farm and seeing his empty house doesn't help (I still have a very hard time with it too). She used to go to his house often just to see him and have a cookie and chat with him. About a month before he died he had slipped and fell and broke a bone in his arm, and Nikia was his "nurse" to make him all better. She brought him water, the paper, a Kleenex, his slippers, etc... She had such a special place in her heart for him and now his death and all the visual memories of the accident are really hard for her. I know God knows how to mend her heart and I just ask that you say an extra prayer for Nikia.

Thank you!!

19 comments:

Lori said...

OH that is so sad. I will keep her in my prayers.

Dawn said...

Yes, Amy, I will continue to pray for Nikia, and the rest of you.

Jen said...

Poor Nikia. I will say an extra prayer for her! Do you think some Saturday afternoon or Sunday after church she would like to come over to play with Brooklyn? We could even do a picnic in the park after church next Sunday! I hope her little heart heals soon! It will take awhile but day by day, she will get better! Its hard as a mom to see the pain in their eyes! I am praying for her and for you too Amy!!!

Heidi Jo Comes said...

even though the vivid memory of her great grandpa's death haunts her right now, i will pray that as she ages and longs for those memories of him, the Lord can and will turn her sorrow into dancing. and what feels so fresh and raw now will become a very lasting and beautiful memory of the man she so adored.

praying for wisdom for you too amy, as it can't be easy to watch her suffer...even when you still miss him so yourself.

Amanda said...

Oh - poor Nikia. I feel terrible for her. It has to be horrible for you to watch her go through this.

I will absolutely pray for her healing heart - and yours as well. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. Hang in there girl!

Jamie said...

I feel so bad for her. I can't imagine what it is was like to see what she did.

I hope things get better for her soon!

Teresa said...

She is such a tender-hearted, giving little girl. I will pray for healing in her heart and the happy memories to put a smile on her face.

Kerrie said...

Oh no! Poor, sweet, little thing. I will pray for her healing heart.

Momma Roar said...

Of course, Amy! I have thought about your family often since you posted about your grandfather's passing.

Tracy said...

I am so sorry that little Nikia is going through this...but she certainly is not alone. I will continue to pray for all of you!

Just Mom said...

I had a very hard time with the passing of my grandmother nine years ago. In time the unhappy moment faded and only the happy memories filled my heart.

Your little Nikia witnessed a very tragic event at a very young age. It will take some time. Please know that I will continue to pray for her and your family as long as you need.

kristi at everyday woman said...

we will pray for her. Perhaps funny stories about your grandpa or dreaming of what fun he's having in heaven would help her. Someone told me when dad died that I was only feeling sorry for myself because he obviously was in a better place. It was harsh, and I wouldn't say that to Nikkia, but it made me try to break away from the sadness and anxiety. She will be on my heart.

Frazzled Farm Wife said...

Poor Nikia...it is so hard for young ones to understand the loss of a loved one. I will pray for her and hope that the memories that she has of him stay in her heart. She is so lucky to have all the good memories of her great-grandpa, it's too bad the last bad one has to stick in her mind right now.

Jane said...

Amy, please read this to, or print this for Nikia.

Nikia, I am praying for you. I may live in South Carolina, way far away from SD, but my heart aches for you and your broken heart.

One of my grandmothers died before I was born, the other when I was almost 6 years old. I still, at the age of 40, miss having my grandmas. Time does make it easier. But time will not take away your love for or memories of your grandpa.

It is ok to cry. Feel the pain, and ask God to help you to fill that emptiness in your heart.

Jesus... please heal Nikia's broken heart. Amen

I will continue to pray for you!
Jane

Kerrie said...

Amy - just had a thought. Would you and Nikia be able to plant a tree on your farm in memory of her Great Grandpa? You guys could have some time together taking care of it - talking about all the wonderful things Great Grandpa represented?

Christie Belle said...

OH, poor thing. What a sweet little girl with a big heart. I already said a prayer for her this morning, and will continue to pray for her and your family.

Anonymous said...

I lost my grandpa in a harsh way, too when I was young. It did hurt for a very long time. Holidays were always super hard even into adulthood. I loved to talk about him and all the wonderful memories. Keep him alive in your hearts and in your daily conversations so she can let her emotions out.
I love the idea of the tree planting. She will have a place to go sit and reflect time and again.
What awesome loving friends you have Amy!
We will all be praying for your little darlin's tender heart and our God will hear and heal.

Heather K said...

aww poor Nikia... will remember her in prayer.... it looks Ginger has a neat idea for you to try out..

Debbie said...

Amy,

Thanks for letting us know. I will definitely pray for your little girl... and for you. I know you're hurting too.